Create Positivity in Your Life
We have the choice to focus on being negative or being positive. First, you need to be aware of your thinking in order to make a choice. Most people have habitual ways of thinking and are not aware of how they are thinking. To acquire the ability to think positive requires awareness, training, and practice.
Meditation and concentration exercises are two techniques that help you be aware of what you are thinking, clear your mind, and keep focused in the present. Many people focus on their problems rather than think about a solution. They go over and over the problem in their mind and create negative feelings about it. By being aware you can go inside, think about what you would have done differently, and focus on what to do about solving the problem. For example, you may have experienced a loss. This could be a loss of money, a person, or a thing. This can create sadness, anger, or fear. This is the time to process your feelings about the loss instead of wanting to push your feelings away. Accept that it is ok to feel what you are feeling. Relax and stay with your feelings. The technique to process your feelings are in my book, Insights for Self- Transformation and explains how to do the process in detail. In my years with working with clients and myself I have found this technique to work every time if done correctly. The negative energy dissipates and you can go back to feeling calm. When you are calm and with a clear head you can then proceed to take the necessary steps on the outside to resolve the problem.
It may take some time to make adjustments in your lifestyle when you experience loss. Do the things necessary to make positive changes. Keep focused on the solution. Ask yourself what can I do to keep clear headed and to be resourceful. If it involves a loss of a person then think about what you gained by knowing that person. What lessons did you learn, the happiness you found by knowing them. Think about the positive memories that you have. Fully accept the reality that you no longer have this person in your life. What actions can you now take to utilize what you learned by knowing this person. Instead of thinking about loss, keep focused on what you have gained and what you can do differently.
Often people feel sad or depressed because they do not have things that they want in their life. Lasting happiness does not come from outside ourselves; it comes from the inside. Most of the things we want are trivial, for example, “I want to live where the temperature is more comfortable, I want to have more friends, I want a new car, or I want a bracelet like my friend has.” When we focus on doing what is wise rather than trying to satisfy our whims and feelings, we will gain more lasting happiness. Help other people, be kind, and commit to your responsibilities and be willing to see that most of the things you want are not that important.
